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Sometimes when we talk about parenting, we focus on the early years. But kids grow, and in order to be a good parent, we need to cover different topics.<\/div>\n
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When my daughter was 12 and starting to have boys attracted to her, we talked about the three types of boys\/men. [I know this list isn’t complete, but I was proving a point to a 12 year old with PDD-NOS — I deliberately left out some fine points.] They are:<\/div>\n
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<\/span>– Jerks, the boys who think girls are impressed with rude silly behavior and tease mercilessly. Ocelot had a hard time dealing with these boys, as she’s sensitive to teasing and also tended to lash out at them, getting herself in trouble.<\/div>\n
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<\/span>– Clueless, who want to do the right thing but don’t know how. These boys often act like jerks, but apologize when they see you don’t like that, and attempt to change, with greater or lesser success;<\/div>\n
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<\/span>– Nice Boys, who do get it right. At 12, these boys are very scarce, but as they grow up, jerks and clueless might evolve into nice guys. And Ocelot is seeing that as she grows up … at 14, she is finding more Nice Boys, who occasionally revert back to jerk-hood on occasion.<\/div>\n
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The act of being able to categorize the boys helped Ocelot understand them. We also talked about how the Jerks acted the way they did because they liked her, and how most Clueless boys were learning how to be nice, but needed polite feedback to learn. [So don’t rip their heads off when they mess up.]<\/div>\n
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These categories persist into adulthood, though there are far more Nice Men and fewer Jerks \u2014 though there always will be a few.<\/div>\n
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Gender Equality Note: I’m sure a similar categorization could be made for women and girls … but since I came up with this when I had to explain boys to a 12 year old girl, I didn’t explore the other side.<\/div>\n

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