{"id":135,"date":"2010-05-24T09:10:42","date_gmt":"2010-05-24T13:10:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/aspergersparent.wordpress.com\/?p=135"},"modified":"2011-11-04T10:33:11","modified_gmt":"2011-11-04T14:33:11","slug":"thanks","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/polymathsolution.com\/blog\/2010\/05\/24\/thanks\/","title":{"rendered":"Thanks"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>A friend asked:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>(do you) have any tricks to teach kids to know how to respond when someone gives them something, especially if it is something your son\/daughter doesn&#8217;t really find interesting or want?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>&#8220;Thank You&#8221; is plenty for me, especially if the item was clearly an afterthought on the part of the giver. [I&#8217;m having a mint &#8230; want one?]<\/p>\n<p>If you feel a longer response is needed, &#8220;Thank You, Mrs. X&#8221; or, if you want to throw them for a loop, &#8220;Thank you sir.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, if the item is something that the giver put some thought into, the proper response is &#8220;Thank you for thinking of me.&#8221; or &#8220;How thoughtful of you &#8230; thanks!&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>The issue with all this is that many Aspie kids think one must be truly thankful to say &#8220;thank you&#8221;. We don&#8217;t realize that the words can be a formality, a bit of social lubrication, as it were, and don&#8217;t necessarily imply one is truly thankful. Thank You often means nothing more than &#8220;I acknowledge you have given me something.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>One of the best references for teaching things like this to AS people are the works of <a href=\"0px !important;&quot; \/&gt;\" target=\"_blank\">Miss Manners<\/a>. She handles issues like this with explanations and humor. Reading Miss Manners is what taught me that phrases like &#8220;thank you&#8221; and &#8220;I&#8217;m sorry&#8221; have very little to do with actual gratefulness or remorse, and a lot to do with being pleasant and fitting into society.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A friend asked: (do you) have any tricks to teach kids to know how to respond when someone gives them something, especially if it is something your son\/daughter doesn&#8217;t really find interesting or want? &#8220;Thank You&#8221; is plenty for me, especially if the item was clearly an afterthought on the part of the giver. 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