{"id":150,"date":"2010-10-04T12:32:16","date_gmt":"2010-10-04T16:32:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/aspergersparent.wordpress.com\/?p=150"},"modified":"2011-11-04T10:33:11","modified_gmt":"2011-11-04T14:33:11","slug":"social-skills-menu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/polymathsolution.com\/blog\/2010\/10\/04\/social-skills-menu\/","title":{"rendered":"Social Skills Menu"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>From time to time, my daughter&#8217;s special education staff hand me papers with bits of useful information. The following lists come from a textbook, but I don&#8217;t have a reference. [If anyone knows where this comes from, let me know.] Some of the items refer to other sections of the book, and I don&#8217;t know exactly what they mean.<\/p>\n<p>The Speech and Language therapist referred to this material as &#8220;Eye Contact 101&#8221;, basic social skills, but the list goes deeper than that, through skills all adults need to know to do well in life. [I see some I have to brush up on.]<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Nonverbal cues \/ Body Language<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ol>\n<li>Expressing and reading welcoming vs. unwelcoming social cues<\/li>\n<li>Interest vs. boredom social cues<\/li>\n<li>Sarcasm vs. genuine expressions<\/li>\n<li>Attending to others<\/li>\n<li>Respecting personal space and belongings<\/li>\n<li>Personal hygiene<\/li>\n<li>Dealing with odd motor mannerisms<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<ul>\n<li>Dealing with anger \/ frustration<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ol>\n<li>Understanding your anger<\/li>\n<li>Identifying triggers to your anger<\/li>\n<li>Altering or avoiding triggers to your anger<\/li>\n<li>Better ways to think about and deal with the triggers to your anger<\/li>\n<li>Calming yourself when angry<\/li>\n<li>Talking vs. acting out your feelings<\/li>\n<li>Using the Daily Anger Record<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<ul>\n<li>Dealing with anxiety<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ol>\n<li>Dealing with anxiety and fear \u2014 understanding the alarm reaction<\/li>\n<li>Dealing with unpleasant, intrusive thoughts and compulsive behaviors<\/li>\n<li>Dealing with social fears<\/li>\n<li>Dealing with new, feared situations<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<ul>\n<li>Conversation<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ol>\n<li>Saying hellos and goodbyes<\/li>\n<li>Introductions<\/li>\n<li>Politely interrupting<\/li>\n<li>Maintaining and joining a conversation<\/li>\n<li>Starting conversations with people you know<\/li>\n<li>Getting to know someone new<\/li>\n<li>POSTER: Summary of Starting and Maintaining Conversations<\/li>\n<li>Conversation repair strategies<\/li>\n<li>Politely changing topics<\/li>\n<li>Being sensitive to the listener&#8217;s interests<\/li>\n<li>Politely ending conversations<\/li>\n<li>Answering the telephone and taking messages<\/li>\n<li>Calling friends on the telephone<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<ul>\n<li>Building and Maintaining Friendships (and dealing with roommates)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ol>\n<li>Where to find friends<\/li>\n<li>Don&#8217;t try too hard too soon<\/li>\n<li>Sharing friends<\/li>\n<li>Avoiding touchy subjects and insults<\/li>\n<li>Complimenting<\/li>\n<li>Respecting other&#8217;s views<\/li>\n<li>Don&#8217;t impose rules on others (minding your own business)<\/li>\n<li>Avoid bragging<\/li>\n<li>Dealing with peer pressure and avoiding setups<\/li>\n<li>Empathic listening<\/li>\n<li>Showing caring for others&#8217; feelings through supportive statements<\/li>\n<li>Deepening relationships \u2014 sharing personal information<\/li>\n<li>Conflict resolution \/ Assertiveness<\/li>\n<li>Dealing with teasing<\/li>\n<li>Showing good sportsmanship<\/li>\n<li>Giving attention in positive ways<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<ul>\n<li>Dating<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ol>\n<li>Where to find a date and how and when to ask someone on a date<\/li>\n<li>Asking someone out on a date<\/li>\n<li>Reading the signals \u2014 when to pursue a romantic relationship<\/li>\n<li>Sexual harassment<\/li>\n<li>Do&#8217;s and Dont&#8217;s on a date<\/li>\n<li>Communicating clearly to meet each other&#8217;s needs<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<ul>\n<li>Dealing with school and family demands<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ol>\n<li>Asking for reasonable modifications<\/li>\n<li>Dealing with frustrating work<\/li>\n<li>Accepting no or waiting for what you want<\/li>\n<li>Asking nicely for what you want<\/li>\n<li>Working cooperatively in groups<\/li>\n<li>Dealing with mistakes and correction<\/li>\n<li>How to respectfully disagree with teachers, parents, or supervisors<\/li>\n<li>Dealing with stressful living situations<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<ul>\n<li>Employment skills<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ol>\n<li>Choosing job \/ career directions<\/li>\n<li>Conducting a job search<\/li>\n<li>Writing a resume and cover letters<\/li>\n<li>Scripts for networking with friends, relatives, and potential employers<\/li>\n<li>Interview skills (and whether to disclose a disability)<\/li>\n<li>Handling rejection<\/li>\n<li>Dos and Don&#8217;ts to maintain a job<\/li>\n<li>Responding to criticism, accusations, or complaints on the job<\/li>\n<li>Exiting a job<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<ul>\n<li>Money Matters<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ol>\n<li>Managing money<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<ul>\n<li>Preparing for Emergencies<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ol>\n<li>Dealing with emergencies and emergency workers (such as police and hospital workers)<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<ul>\n<li>Transportation<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ol>\n<li>Negotiating transportation<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<ul><\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>From time to time, my daughter&#8217;s special education staff hand me papers with bits of useful information. 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